Is It Okay To Be A Spoiling Grandparent?

vthe research I've done, and the fact that I am a grandparent of three I have come to the conclusion that yes, there should be some guidelines for grandparents to follow. First, I want to make it very clear that grandparents are an essential part of their grandchildren's lives for several reasons: Grandparents tell a story of their parent's lives, making their parents human to their children, and allowing them to see that they made mistakes as well. It's important for children as they grow to hear stories of what life was like when their grandparents were young. Before computers, cell phones, social media (one had to look in an encyclopedia for information). What did they do for entertainment? Kids will be surprised! They more than likely will want to engage in a conversation about that time period. Grandparents have the privilege and duty to instill values and manners in their grandchildren.

Now for the guidelines: As grandparents we should respect the rules of the parents within reason. If parents are firm on no candy because of the behavior they see afterwards, then it should be respected if they are heading home soon. If there are behavioral issues parents are working on with their child, it is vital that grandparents follow through as well. It is important for grandparents to show a united front with parents. If there is an issue it should be discussed away from the children. Now for toys, most of the research I've found is be reasonable and responsible about it. Don't busy expensive gifts just because, or every time you see your grandchildren because you have the means to do so. The child/children will become dependent on it. Therefore, when it doesn't happen undesired behavior would show up. Do spend quality time with your grandkids in activities such as: cooking, scrap booking family pictures, doing crafts, playing with toys, building blocks, magnetic tiles, tea parties, bike riding, etc..If you have multiple grandchildren and there is an opportunity to take them separately for a special date now and then that is highly encouraged. Be sure to treat all your grandchildren equally and not play favorites. This could be hurtful to your other grandchildren and to the parents. All parents want to see their parents love on their children, and most will not be upset with a toy here and there for no reason.

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